Debrief March 7

Speak my mind.

I saw a well groom dude, looks like an actor. I open when he’s leaving the store with his female companion. I open with “I’m not gay, but I like how the colors of your cloth, matches. He was delight and I also ask about if he’s an actor. He is and he ask me a few questions about me. I mentioned my name is a japanese name, but I’m pure chinese, then I go into a story how my dad gave me this name with lousy details.

What I should do.
Bring the female companion into the conversation.
Eg: Who is this lovely lady.
(To the girl) You are beautiful and you (to the guy) are a lucky guy.
(To the girl)Again, I’m not gay, but you are a lucky girl.

About the hottest girl I’ve ever seen in my whole life. I met a woman with vast femine energy, it was overwhelming and I was instantly attracted. She wasn’t over the top confident but she did know how to carry herself. I shall regret all my life for doing nothing.

What I should do.
Walk towards her. When in doubt, move forward physically.

At bookstore, I saw an indian girl, with a headset, really into reading her book. I hesitate then talk to her about the book. The conversation was short as no new threads were introduced.

As I move on to the self help section, I saw an asian looking girl, sitting on the floor, really into reading the book. Again, I hesitate for seconds, then move in.
I talk to her about the book and how I admire her being so focus into reading her book. New threads were easily dropped in the conversations from the book to her race, food, kuching, korea. The ratio of the conversation was 4:6 as I listen more than I talk and she was very responsive. She collect samples on plants, sounds very professional work though she only mention she is passionate about it verbally.

Debrief.
She laugh easily even though I wasn’t trying to be funny.

I have too many excessive non verbals, should slow down my excitement and control my non verbals.

I didn’t get her contact information, I should make a habit of keeping in touch with people who I had great conversations.

She was sitting on the floor so I squad down to look at the books and face her about 45 degree, wasn’t conscious about this, I think this help in leading non verbal, as I was standing again, she follows. I could also grab any book and told her to check this out so she will be standing.

I was into the conversation, listening genuinely, even if I run out of things to say, she re-initiate the conversation.

I believe I speak rather loud in the bookstore which is good as it allows her to speak louder as she was a quiet speaker. Again, lead in non verbals.

When she mentioned she’s not food adventurous, I should take the opportunity to mention, I am food adventurous.

-Screen and qualify is not a part of my conversation yet.

-Be sponaneous. I am spontaneous, I shall act through my intentions.