Kicking back at clubs

Going to clubs alone, just to kick back and relax, not doing anything is ok. I wasn’t energetic or playful I didn’t get laid or have hot girls by my side but I still feel it’s ok. And I learn that I can relax much better in a noisy club, compare to at home, and I learn again, to be able to space out, thinking about whatever I want to think, in the club. I’m moving with my own space, I talk when I feel like it.

Tonight, I learn that assumption can backfire when used on the wrong time. I have to do more screen, qualify and compliment, like how I compliment a girl with a beautiful eyes and she was very happy to hear it, but compliment in clubs, which I’ve done a few times, doesn’t open a conversation or do anything, unless it’s a really unique and genuine one. At the club I complimented a girl on her dress, I just say it’s a nice dress. It’s a white with red spots or patches, which makes her stand out in a cute way.

I gotta push a lil when girls become touchy in the first place but then I gotta change my mindset first, the hoping for validation.

My scar inner scar is not healed, I’m still going to feel pain and hurt, I still aren’t comfortable being my best around certain people.

Beer really isn’t my thing.

Oh, I also try to give advise to a guy, I want to step up, and I hope my friends step up too. But he’s in the denial stage for his pain, so really can’t do anything about it.

I also see the girl I once met in club, she wasn’t radiant, she just work for the sake of working and money which explains why she mentioned she was tired the last few times I was in the phone with her. I don’t think I’ll see her again.

Stepping up, having fun, giving more genuine compliment. These are my homework.

edit: Figured I should make this post much more organize in a chronological way.

Arrive at a cafe, talk to random girl who was reading the menu, at some point, she got annoyed and say “Don’t ask me I’m not the promoteer.” I would say, it happen because I was only asking question towards her and wasn’t in a good energy vibe.  My intention at that time was just to get my self in a social mood as I was also talking to the staff.

Couldn’t find a good spot for serious conversation, as the corners are filled with TV. I choose the seats at balchony which I didn’t realize there’s a tv that wasn’t on until later of the time.

I had always like this cute staff with her beautiful eyes. On my way to the toilet, we exchange eye contact and she smile. I kicked myself for not being spontaneous and compliment her in the toilet. After me and my friends settle the bill, I told her “I like your eyes, I think they are beautiful” She was very delighted and excited and reply with a happy thank you. 

On my way to the club, I have some good conversation. Eg: Joking with the cleaning lady while I was in the toilet, manage to find out that parking fees can be reduce if I present the ticket to the reception that I’m here to visit the club.

Inside the club, the crowd was definitely much bigger than the last time I came. There are a couple of hot girls but I never open them.

I got my drinks at the quiet side of the bar, where I talk to a friendly waiter, and we have a conversation from now and then. I also open 2 girls nearby, but later they seem very busy talking to each other and they’re not my type so I move around the club to find a place to seat.

Assumption backfire when I assume that the waiter got lots of girls buying him drink which he agree on it for the sake of bullshit and vibe. It actually upset the vibe and it’s not genuine. Nevertheless, he was pretty cool guy, check on me whenever he saw me.

Was having trouble relax when I’m alone at  a table. Was very self conscios, constantly correct my shirt and body posture. I’m suprise the urge to use my phone for amusement wasn’t there. 

 After sometime I got bored, finish my drink and move around again, talk to the 2 girrls I opened before. One of them was very responsive, so I spent more of my night with them. Nothing really happens, the logistic wasn’t good for comfort building, I got a free beer and a number at the end of the night.

Was getting bored and tired later of the night, so I moved to another club, but nothing worth mentioned there.

Things I could’ve done if I want things to be hot.
Get my drinks at the busy place of the bar, where I’ll be near the hot girls.
Dance.
 Open more sets especially girls.