Office Social Dynamics

I’ve been horrible at office social dynamics, and because I knew I’m awful, I avoid as much social contacts as possible. The result? Suicide!

While I want to just get the job done and go home, it’s not the ideal way of the office. Rereading this post definitely help a lot. The first time I read this, I think I was on the verge of quiting my first office job so I didn’t really apply it. Now I think the advice is very solid, I tried once, to do 80% of the talking with one of the co-worker I barely talk to and knew I have issues, it worked, the situation is less awkward.

While I’ve been dishonest with myself and fleeting from problems and responsibility, I realize there’s something call social obligations to fulfill. Once I achieve certain reputation, people are gonna expect something from that reputation, and it could be useful in certain situations. While in the past, I’m too aloof to care, I just live my own pace, which is why I rarely have social momentum, people are not sure if I’m interested in them so they didn’t bother. I start to understand why my friends do certain things  even though they were reluctant. Eg: Repeating the accident story for the whole morning 10 times.

I also realize, I could achieve the frog prince magic within days only, and as time pass by, my magic unfold and I’ll still be the frog. I knew exactly what to do to be great with people I’m interested, but once I got not so enthused, I just drop everything and that’s bad for responsibility, obligation and bad for people’s feeling.

I just suck at relationship. That’s gonna be one of my sticky points I’ll focus on.