Singapore Bootcamp, the best days of my life

David aka AsianRake

Henry, the other student.

Bootcamp is a much more serious seminar in this post. My bootcamp is about lifestyle and dating consultation. Through this bootcamp, I am able to give strong eye contact and stepping up for myself. But there’s more, so much more. Read on!

Intro

Man, It was fun, magical, absolutely wonderful. I could take thousands of pictures and none of them will be adequate to describe my journey in Singapore.

Soul searching, what’s my identity

AsianRake’s Pre-bootcamp survey got me write down what I want for the bootcamp, what’s my best self, what’s my weakness. And I began to think, I got all the skills and techniques, what else I lack to become my best self? The answer is obvious. Stepping up and facing failures.

Warm ups for the bootcamp
Duration: Starting from Monday Sept 1. Codename: Step Up.
Monday: Organize a talk, didn’t went well, I learn a lot of mistakes and made mental note to improve things.
Tuesday and Wednesday: Can’t remember what I did, I know they require me to Step Up.
Thursday: Conversation with a girl in msn, we got a connection and sometimes I feel the urge for closeness, like grabbing her hair and making out. I told her how I feel, she said she feel the same. It was my first time telling a girl how I feel without hesitating for a week or longer.

Friday:
This is the day, didn’t have a good night sleep, was busy trying to complete the transaction for my 2nd bootcamp installment payment on Thursday night. Still haven’t paid my 2nd installment which was meant to be done 24 hours before the bootcamp.

At Kuching’s Airport, this is where I meet London girl, Catherine. I first saw her check in AirAsia Counter to JB, there’s only 1 plane going to that destination.  So I asked her (and a few people) if she was going to Singapore by taxi, if yes, we could split taxi fair. Catherine agreed. She went to withdraw some cash from atm, and I remain near the check in counter to find 2 more, no luck.

Being with the person I want to be with

So when I was queuing to board the plane, I saw Catherine again, walking slowly towards the queue, I stopped her and exchange number, and I told her to join me in the queue, she hesitate, feeling bad for other passenger, I told her it’s fine, she’s my gf now. I learn my gf is pursuing her PhD in medical science. And Catherine is pronouce as “Kah- Ter-rine” So we talked, from the queue, in the plane, in JB’s airport where we have a break in donkin donut, she’s sweet enough to get me a donut! And all the way from JB to Singapore, we just talk.

“Stupid Malaysia” She commented after she explained her first experience, being embrace by the instant, heavy rain in borneo. I had an urge to defend my country, but I let it go. It was magical for her. Rain in London, starts slow, always slow, never, in one go, paint her completely with water. “Stupid Malaysia” It’s not an insult, because when I replay these 2 words, I feel warm inside.

I thought of asking her to take a picture of us together, but I wuss out, instead, I ask her to show me the pictures she took in Kuching, being curious about what beauty she see in my hometown. She had a great time backpacking in Kuching, she was excited and happy when she tell me what’s happening behind each pictures. Having no place to stay for the night, I checked with Catherine about hers, it’s a backpacker’s hotel in Bugis. Bugis, I remembered, is where where 7th storey hotel is, a backpacker’s hotel recommended by David. so I decided to try my luck see if I can get the same hotel with Catherine.

We have our Taxi dropped us in Bugis, she tried to find her hotel with 2 maps, one printed from her hotel’s website and one from a book published in 2007. We got in the wrong direction in the starting point. She don’t trust that book for direction. It gave her the wrong direction in Kuching.

We are around a few landmark, but we are difinitely sure we don’t know the right direction to go. I did what I’m best, I asked for directions from strangers. An Indian gentleman was kind enough to put his time and effort to help us. He even get his PDA to check for digital map, but it doesn’t work. To appreciate his help, I learn how to say thank you in his language. “Nandri”

Maybe it’s the heat, maybe she’s hungry, maybe it’s because she didn’t get enough sleep last night. “You’re suppose to know the way, you’re Asian, and you’ve been here before!” She exclaimed. Or it’s because I don’t have a map, and she’s the one leading the way, which makes me appear I’m doing nothing. And before she did mentioned a few things, out of frustration. So I have enough. “Alright we’re breaking up now, you can take the dog” Following exact words I learn from forums, it’s suppose to be a joke for flirting. “It’s my hotel I’m kicking you out!” I didn’t expect that answer. We laugh abit and that calms both of us down.

At the right street address, Cathrine decided to look for her hotel from behind the buildings. Yes, we’re looking at those unpainted, not so pretty back doors! She was counting street number. I was preparing myself to be wowed or to laugh at her. We passed the whole lot. She mention counting street numbers doesn’t work in Singapore. And so, we walk around, and start looking for the hotel thru signs and beautiful front doors.

I grow impatient half way, wasn’t even sure if we’re at the right lot of shops. I went and asked another India guy, hopeful, a helpful one “It’s just over there” Pointing me to a direction not far away and I saw Catherine, in front of her hotel. We made eye contact. She was giving me the “I win” look. I went thinking “if we look thru the front door at the beginning, we’ll find this place already”, I’ll just let her win, so I silent myself and accompany her into the place.

Lunch, farewell, and a kiss on the cheek

“We’re fully booked” That’s what the young chubby receptionist Singaporen looking girl told me.

I asked 2 Asian mother and daughter. The mother doesn’t speak English, her daughter took her map out. “ahh, maps again, maybe I should get myself one” I told myself. While looking, she told herself “eh to, eh to” Japanese. In gratitude for helping me with the directions, I told them “Thank you, my name is Shiro” in japanese. “Nihon jin?” The mother said with suprised. We exchange names, I told them I’m chinese, and I watch Japanese anime so I know a little. And there’s the moment where they goes “ohhh” And speak japanese excitedly among themselves. I said my goodbyes, in Japanese again. I felt good about the whole thing, who needs map when I can connect to anyone and ask!

I made plans to have lunch with Catherine, she said she have to withdraw money again, and advise me to look for my hotel before everywhere gets full. We promised to keep in touch with our Malaysian number. At that moment, I forgot the given directions, crap. So I start walking to find those 2 helpful Japanese. Then I stop after a few steps. “I don’t need a map” I convince myself. The reason I come to Singapore is to get good with my social skills, I might as well start practicing. So I start asking for directions, whenever I’m not sure, I ask anyone near me. Singaporeans are helpful to tourist.

“We’re full for the day, did you made any reservation?” I got that answer for 3 backpacker’s hotel. I was tired and I’m sweating. Bless the warm afternoon. It’s some distant for me to walk from 1 hotel to another. I didn’t feel like giving, from each hotel, I ask for recommendations for another.

“One night is around 120++, very expensive, you better sleep at road side la” That’s what the Ah Pek at counter service told me. I imagine myself sleeping on road side for a second. I find it funny. “Your first time here ah?” I nod, I have the money alright, I don’t need any luxury, just a place to sleep. At worst, I’ll relunctantly call my relatives in Singapore. I move on, I’m tired and I feel hungry as I walk past restaurants.  The lovely lady from a restaurant called for me “Ni Yao Chi Shen me?” in a non Singapore accent. I told them I’m looking for a place to stay first. They told me there’s one nearby, above an indian cafe. Ok, last try.

The hotel was opposite Bugis Junction, the mall in the area, and there’s many chinese food around, the kind of food that I’m familar in Kuching. Feels like home. “Do you have a room?” With the help of an european lady, I found the counter. “Yes, do you want a dorm or a room?” Relieved with this answer, I got myself a room for 50$.

she went to find atm machine, I went to find my hotel, we agreed to have lunch together after I’ve found my place. She have a Malaysian number. So I went around bugis hunting, 3 backpacker’s was full, found another 1, but it’s too expensive for me, and finally I found my hotel in front of bugis junction. I was tired, I was sweating. I changed my T’s, and meet up Catherine for lunch. She tried her first ever Chinese porridge(English porridge are made of oats) She offer her cheek for a kiss, I went in for my first kiss on the cheek, she wish me goodluck in my bootcamp sincerely, I felt an urge for closeness.

Frustration,being idle and wait vs doing something and make things happen

Frustrated and disappointed because I still can’t pay for my 2nd installment. I went to get a coffee, and sat on a sofa in bugis junction. I thought of what happened if I can’t join the bootcamp, I thought of posting in Singapore lair, “Hi guys, anyone up for party this weekend?”
“Do something! Don’t wait for someone to give!” I was waiting for AsianRake to come up with a solution, so instead of waiting, I went to try the last few things that I thought was possible using the internet in the hotel. Still failed, that’s when I meet Shoko, a Japanese student.

I’ve did what I could, and David never say “it’s ok” or “Never mind, just come”. So being all emotional worn out, I talk to Shoko until it’s almost 5pm. I took a drink with Shoko and decided to walk to Brewerkz Riverside Point, was told by the hotel receptionist it’s 10 mins walk! I asked Shoko to walk me since she’s not doing anything, She comply.

I was worrying half way that I’ll be late and I was sweating! Shoko comfort me by asking “Are you ok?” in repeat. Knowing I’ll be late, I text david “I’m sorry, I’ll be late”

At Brewerkz

At Brewerkz, Shoko bit me goodbye and with a gambateh! She’s sooooo sweet!
I went around look for david, no familiar face! The last time I saw him was last year, and you know, PUA can change their outlook completely! I have depleted my phone credit, so I couldn’t call or text. And that means David didn’t receive my text earlier! Told my story of finding my friend and my phone to a waiter, he was kind enough to lend me his phone. I called David, no answer! OK, David could be pissed that I didn’t pay the 2nd installment and I’m late, he could have taken the other client(s) to another location to work on something. I try to keep my cool, to look around again. Inside the restorant, no familiar face too! And bless the waiter, and bless AsianRake, the kind waiter told me, “your friend called”, I use his helpful phone and called David and got “I’ll be late etc etc.”

PHEWWWWWWWW! I went inside and choose a spot where I can see anyone who came in thru the entrance of the door. Made a conversation with a middle age woman in the mean time, until I see OMFG! David! Along with a cool looking white dude, who later becomes my gay friend. LOLOLOL.

When I think about what happened, I can only say Wow, Singapore, Wow.

Class #1 Fundamentals.
We took the back booth where it’s easier to talk. I shook hand with Henry for the first time, firm grip, reminds me of what I was told by Sg Lair guys. “Be Alpha, Be Dominant. Speak Louder”
Even after everything, I was ready for the bootcamp. I was ready to receive whatever David has to give.

Here’s what worth mentioned.
While going thru our first class, as David explains each concept I was smiling as he progress. It’s the smile of clarity, the kind of smile I got the right answers when the teacher reveals answers for the test. I just can’t help but smile. “Yeap, I’m in the right track.”

My chair was not comfortable to rest my legs.

Notable event:

Henry

Henry was weird to me at first When David was talking to waiter/waitress, he wants to listen to every single word what David said, want to know what David do in every interaction. That leads me to see him as the typical weirdo in the community. Henry gives good conversation, good vibe, he loves to talk and he’s sincere when he talk. Wasn’t so sure how well he perform with women.

AsianRake

Gave me strong eye contact while demonstrating the opener “I saw you xyz, looking very sexy” in one of his adventures. Gave me the eye contact as if I’m the HB. Wasn’t sure what he was trying to do at that moment, but I look him straight in the eye.

Who is AsianRake.
Base on my experience, he is:
The art of subtlety.
The PUA with invisible game.
Mystery, without scripted lines or routines or fancy clothes.
The Chinese who doesn’t look Chinese at all at first impression.
The social man.

You know how I know you’re gay?

After class, we have a recess before night game. Decided to rest in Henry’s hotel, Novetel Hotel. Awesome place. Me and Henry connect well, we talk about many things. Then, we wait for David at MOS entrance, David is late again, so I told David let’s take a walk nearby. Singapore’s river is awesome, it’s my favourite place, and this is where all the gay jokes started. Henry got this game going back in his town, where you just tell your friend “You know how I know you’re gay? Random reason” Back and forth.

Henry is good in this, I took this game into the next level, whacky. We were having good time laughing at each other, in the mean time, I saw a 2 mixed set, the chick was looking at our direction, and later, they sat beside us, I knew the chick was drawn by our fun.

Not sure if they’re a couple or siblings. They heard our gay talk, and we engage, I told them I’m gay, and I’m going to slap the guy’s ass, chick said “Go ahead” “No, if I did, then Henry is going to throw me into the river.” And the things I remember that was mentioned “I’m just trying to make Henry jealous by talking to you, he’s being cold to me” “I’m going to slap 10 guys’ ass tonight!” “I’ll slap your ass when Henry’s not looking” “I’ll not just slap once, I’ll slap both your ass” Motion right hand hard slap and left hand hard slap in the air.

After we left, for about 5 steps distance, I came back to the 2 mixed set “Ok he’s not looking, let me slap your ass.” The poor dude had shock and fear in his eyes. I knew it was too much by then. LOL!

Before the club, the warm ups

Meet up with David and he took us around outside the clubs for a walk and warm ups. I start first, using an opener David gave me. 2 mixed set, to chick “Hi, where’s the nearest 7-11” And right then, HENRY, somehow step in front of me, and took away the chick’s attention, I don’t remember what he did, I think hand grabbing. So now we’re 2 different 2 set. I talked to the bf about 7-11, our vibe was “yeah right, whatever, yeah, whatever” and Henry and the chick were “You’re lying you’re lying!!” “Hahaha! No I’m not!” I took mental note he could vibe well with stranger chicks.

Note: Henry got weird logics for opening, some of them were afc negative thoughts, but when he is talking to somebody, he’s really honest and sincere, chick could easily feel it.

Other notable event: I open with “Hi, where can I get some condom” and didn’t get a bad reaction at all, just a neutral face “7-11” The chick is so cool! If she smile or something I would hug her. Coolest chick ever in Singapore!

MOS, Henry, hugs and grinding, me, tired legs

Inside MOS, I lose attention from girls, due to bad body language and not speaking loud enough. Henry got 1 girl hugging him repeatly until the hug is done properly and another girl give him massive ioi, including grinding, too bad Henry didn’t like her.

I was outcome independent alright, I open few sets but whole night I could have only 1 decent conversation, and when the chick talk to her friend, I thought I lost her so I walk away. Something that was poorly taught in ebooks. I was also distracted by my fatigue legs, and I didn’t do much to take care of it which later in the night, kills my energy to party.

Around 1am, David decided to call it a night, me and my pal decided it’s enough for the day. It’s late, and I decided to sleep in his hotel. Separate bed…

Hi I’m Spiderman

Notable event: On the way to Novotel Hotel, I show Henry how opener doesn’t matter, having obtained Outcome Independent. I opened 2 different girls with “Hi I’m Spiderman” They both pause and process what I say, then laugh, I walk away after that. And Henry thought I was embarrassing. I wanted to use the opener”Hi I’m Spiderman” for a very long time, didn’t have the balls before. David did mentioned being honest require bigger balls.

In Novotel Hotel, I open the cute receptionist with “Hi I’m spiderman” then follow up with what Henry usually do in set. This time, he didn’t find me embarrassing, I saw enlightenment in his eyes.

In the love room, we connect more personally, I run out good stuff to say about myself, and he ask me to tell him. “I’m in a broken family” “Dude, I’m sorry to hear that” I breath in, “Yeah, I’m sorry too”

Another first time, my first time talking about my family and instead of trying to keep it casual like no big deal, this time, it’s more like embracing it.

Aftermath, the ramblings, what 2 guys do in the same bed room
We were awake, wide awake, for me, it’s either the 3-5 bottle of red bull, or I damn well miss the 2 girls I’ve connected. Funny thing is, I keep remembering and forgetting Shoko’s name. Like yeah Shoko. Something else, yadayada, what’s the Japanese girl’s name again? Talk something else, Oh yeah, Shoko!, etcetc, What’s her name again? Abc abc, Right, it’s Shoko! This happen in repeat for the whole night.

Around 3-5, somehow Henry manage to fall asleep, I tried, only slept for 1-2 hours, then I couldn’t find my way to dreamland again. Just so many things coming to my head, they are either what happened all Friday or things I want to do!

Morning in Singapore

Like I said, I couldn’t sleep, I was restless.

Around 10-11am, we went to look for breakfast, and, breakfast is hard to find in Clark Quay, maybe it’s just the area, I check with a cute staff where she had breakfast and what she had, home, cereal.

We took something like burger, or was it burger? We talk more, and I greet lots of people along the way, it was a beautiful and wonderful morning. I try to get Henry to do the same, doesn’t work. We made plans to meet 1 hour earlier before class starts for warm-ups and stuff., and then we part ways.

Again, I have to say, the weather is great, the place is wonderful. I’m happy. On my 20minutes ++ walk back to my hotel, an Indian ask for the time, I turn on my phone and check, then you told me my forehead something, good things coming, he was speaking very very fast, I was trying to listen, couldn’t understand what he was talking about. Then my phone with the bullfrog ringtone signal, I got a message, it’s from David, he said his night was getting much more interesting. I smiled to the message, and the Indian keep talking the same message in a very face pace, and I realise that’s enough, he’s annoying, I said my goodbye, and he stop, and say his good bye. NOW, when he said his good bye, his tone and pace change! SO he did the fast talking on fucking purpose!

I will tell you why I’m pissed, after awhile, I feel like my soul was being pulled, eeeeeewwwwwww. I’m sure he was trying to do something. Something bad! I believe the technique involve is subliminal message, so David’s message save my ass. So once, I’m trying to focus on what he was saying, I’m trapped. That is why, he asked the lone, happy me, because I have all the time in the world for new things. I was relax and ready to listen = easy target.

Back in my hotel

Shrug that aside, it’s still a beautiful morning. When I get into my room. I saw a note! It’s from Shoko! That’s sooooooooooooooooooo sweet! It says:

Dear Shiro

I am sleepy. So I am going to sleep. Tomorrow morning, I will stay at my room (no23) or use desk of kitchen. So, please call me.

good night

Shoko

I feel warm and teary. I never really, have a place to return. And Shoko, was waiting for me to return at night to bring her to clubbing even though I didn’t make that promise. Just an if, if I come back early. I did promise her breakfast together, so immediately I went to look for her, couldn’t find her in the backpacker’s hotel.

p/s: her room is a female dorm.

I saw a Japanese girl in the dorm (a not so big room with beds) I ask her if she knew where’s Shoko, then we chat about stuff. Then the lady in charge of the hotel saw us, told me I was not suppose to stay in the female dorm “This is not a love hotel” She said, so we took the conversation outside.

We went to the kitchen and she made a conversation to a French in japanese. Then she bought me to a distant from the kitchen, told me the French wanted to fuck her, she decline “He’s not my type. Now he want to have sex with Shoko” I was ok, whatever not interested, told her to tell Shoko I’m sorry for breaking the promise of not having breakfast together and went to prepare myself for the afternoon.
Now that I think about it, I think she was trying to tell me if I’m trying to fuck Shoko too. Never see her again after that.

On my way to vivocity.

In the mrt, I asked a girl how dark is my dark circle, rate it 1-10, where 10 is frakenstein ugly. She said 6. =(
I tried to help a western guy with his way to something like a golf place, no idea where it is, so I get someone to help him, and off my way to vivocity.
I have a habit of using very general words in my communication, so when I asked a security where’s the information counter at harbor front on the hallway to vivocity, of course I was directed to harbor front’s information counter, which make me searching for my friend who was waiting at vivocity’s information counter. I realize my stupid mistake when I asked “Where’s vivocity’s information counter” “This is not vivocity, this is harbor front.”

Fast forward, David show us his gf, very beautiful body. I mean VERY BEAUTIFUL body. Yeah, and she knows it too. Her proud feminine body posture said.

Debrief on last night’s stuff. My ego defended me which made David mad. I realize I am horrible in taking care of myself, Singapore got all the goody stuff, and I’ve been drinking cold drinks while I’m here, no wonder my hands are cold. I don’t know what’s wrong with my body, I need warm water before cold drinks. That’s one of the obvious thing which show I’m childish (very) compare to Henry.

Class #2 : Humpy Dumpy Sat on a wall baybeh

Eye contact practice with David’s girl. She’s a very sweet girl btw. After the eye contact practice, feels like she’s a sister than a hot girl. Then I got my fashion consultation. Henry got more lecture on his approach logics and reasoning. I don’t get any attention after the fashion consultation, so I feel like I’m not doing anything, and watching Henry working hard to deal with his limits, I asked myself, “What’s my limit?”

That is one of my flaws for not having a long term goal, when I’ve reach my short term goal, I hit a wall. Got myself a nice shirt, recommended by a cute staff. I still remember her name. =) She was nervous, I thought it’s because of my player vibe, but I was never aggressive with her. I tried to make her tell me. Doesn’t work. David told me it’s because I’m a HOTGUY, that make her nervous which explain everything.

At that moment, I just feel like I’m not doing anything, middle child syndrome kick in, like I’m being ignored. I didn’t know what else to work on at that point, so if I’m not sure what I want, how could/would the world know what to give.

At the end of day class, Henry and me got a very down in terms of mood. He tried hard to accept new ideas/logic that was against his personal value, I tried hard to find what my new/next goal is. We both acknowledge the mood, couldn’t find anything to talk to cheer us up, We part ways for rest.

Not a lot was going around in the day, but there’s a ton of stuff going on in an emotional and inner/personal level. So at the end of the class, I feel tired emotionally, I feel like I’m not doing a damn thing to push my limit, feel like I didn’t try and I feel like David didn’t care. (David couldn’t do anything for me at this point as I don’t know what I want.. Refer above.)

My sticky points before the bootcamp were
• Unable to share vulnerabilities with comfort or control.
• Low self esteem.
• Tonality,
• weak eye contact.

It’ll take time to change my usual tonality, as for the rest, pretty much fixed. =)

Rest and Regeneration, even Superman needs one

Back in my hotel. I don’t see my favourite girl in Singapore, so I went online, to do something. No new testimonial in friendster.com. I sign in my msn, no one miss me. Stephanie found me, Stephanie the energetic Latina. Great girl I know thru a friend in msn/HI5. Told her my story on what made me down. “Why are you not doing your best!! Do you want me to kill you!?” Just these 2 words, and poof went my emotional fatigue and disappointment. She’s a magic, she can make me smile whenever I’m sad, and it’s always just 1-2 sentence. I always see her as the girl who could take away my pain. Wonderful girl.

Being brought back to life in spirit.
I practice a dance like spin with Lisa, an Australia girl. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJgZBD4b30o (Same hand instead of cross hand Shiro, cross hand works too though)
I talked to Lisa before, when I wanted to double check on the logistics on Friday’s location in my mail. So after my practice, we talked and I realize I’m hungry, got dinner recommendation from her, then realize I hate to eat alone in this lovely country, asked her to join me for drinks, she have the keys to the room and was waiting for her bf, Neil, to come back from the Library. And while she’s thinking to wait or to go for a drink, Neil appeared. So yeah, the 3 of us, went to the restaurant. We talked and talked and talked. Making new friends seem so easy! We talked about my bootcamp, I asked what Neil wrote, he said “Bullshit” Translation: Fiction. “I know 2 language, English and Bullshit” Fun dude.

I wanted to pay for their drinks, Neil stop me, he got it. Never feel so good among friends. I took a mental note to make more friends like this. Don’t need to wear fancy clothes, don’t have to look pretty, don’t have to be high status, don’t have to be rich. Just need to be awesome.

To rest eternal or continue fighting

Back from dinner, I meet Shoko. So many things to tell her! I told her how I’m sorry that I didn’t get to have breakfast with her, then she did all the talking. It’s just great to listen when I’m tired. I would never get tired of listening to her talking. Somehow we end up in my room, I remember I was suppose to hug her. (Even Henry agree since she was super sweet) I told her she’s very sweet.With an explanation what sweet means beside the candy sweet. Then a big hug. Not sure if it went smooth, she didn’t complain. I got tired so I lie on my bed and get her a pillow and lay beside me. If the bed is on a horizontal position, then we’re lying on a vertical position, with our legs on the ground. I could fall asleep if I cuddle with her.

She told me it’s normal to leave each other notes in her family and that’s common in Japanese, and being persistent(not the suitable word) she said, like the way she ask if I’m ok on Friday noon, is also frequent. I think if I never knew who to marry, I’ll get a Japanese house wife type of girl, it will not be the wrong decision.

That moment, I feel so relax, as I watch the time pass, I was in a dilemma, to lay like that or maybe lie on her shoulder and have my sweetest dream ever, or get up and go for the night class practise. It was difficult to choose, but I choose the one that’s not comfortable. I always choose the path that’s hard. That’s the main reason I’m here in Singapore. I made mental note, if I’m living in Singapore, I’ll definitely keep her as my buddy friends. She plan to marry her bf in japan,

On one the things we’ve talked, I told her about her note that makes me feel like someone waiting for me to come back, then I thought of a great girl in Kuching, she said she’ll miss me while I’m gone. For once, someone is waiting for me to come back in Kuching. I didn’t think of my guy friend who bless me on my journey, I think that’s normal cause I’m not gay.

I splash my face with water, wanted to took a shower but I’m already late. Took a taxi to rescue my legs. Meet up with Henry the lounge of Novotel Hotel. Did I complimented it’s a great hotel? It is a great hotel, cute staff and great attitude.

MOS again

I practice what was taught in the noon, how to walk in club. All I can say is Woah. I’m in control of my actions and mind. I feel like the bomb. With a glance exchanged, a chick dance to show her body for me.

My 5th approach from behind. I can still remember it clearly. David:”Go ask for directions how to go to the hip hop room, lead us.”

I saw 2 girls standing near the post, and I’m facing their back. I walk directly to them, with a light tap on both shoulder at the same time. They turn, “Hi, where’s the hip hop room” I scream with max volume. And that is how the set is opened. After I got my direction, I looked back at the guys, they both smile, I knew they talked about me; I made a mental note to ask.

The night went on, I’m in a different state of mind, not my usual whack fun state of mind, it’s like I’m a new person, I’m walking in motion around my house, I’m just chilling. I’m in my own pace of mind, I do whatever I want.

For some reason, MOS was not target rich. Didn’t see any girls that love to vibe that night, beside David’s girl (different girl). David told us to just relax and have fun. I wanted to experiment the spin I practice, the girl I talked to didn’t comply. I checked with David what I did wrong. He told me to have fun, not thinking about game. Later I learn, there’s only 2 ways I could have fun in clubs, talking with great people, talking to girls that love to vibe, or gaming/sarging outcome dependent. Playing the game for the sake of playing, like playing gameboy.

My first blow out, by guys!

Another notable event, I approach a girl who “appears” sitting alone. Nearby sets seem to have too much fun to look like she doesn’t belong to any sets. I went and sit near, with my whole body language facing her. “Hi, what is a cute girl like you sitting all alone.” As soon as she look up to me, I felt a hand on my chest. Pushing me firmly and slowly, I saw a guy from my right looking at me with a neutral face, with the eyes “fuck off” then another hand from another guy from my left side, with the same expression. I said “Alright alright” slowly backing off with my hand up as if I’m having my body checked by security. It was a new experience, I shrug it off after trying to process what happened. I didn’t realize what I did wrong until Sunday’s debrief.

After awhile me and Henry went to walk around the club, I got an urge to play game for the sake of playing. I wanted to do personal space invading as showed by Sensei in one of cliff list dvd I saw weeks ago. Basically, I just want to be an asshole, sandwich the girl in a 2 mixed set who appear in a lovey dovey mood, and just scream “Check that out”, pointing to random direction then leave. Wanted to share this fun idea with Henry, but he was damn busy talking to David’s girl, trying learn more about what she like about David. It’s no fun to do this alone when there’s no one to share it = ( He could at least watch while I made the couple confuse or the bf beat the crap out of me.

So I walk around to look for my type of girl, made eye contact twice with a cute staff with a touch light. I opened her, either my non verbals made her lose interest or she wasn’t allowed to talk much while on duty.

We also approach a 5-7 set of girls earlier in MOS, the crazy part is, the non target girls were like moving from me to Henry then to me again to listen to our conversation. Like there’s 2 party going on, they’re not sure which to attend. Henry got a free ticket for drinks.

I took a taxi back to my hotel, ahhh, finally sleeping in the hotel I paid for.

The morning after.

I don’t get much sleep, I think around 2-3 hours of dreamland. Same thing going on, too many thoughts going thru my head when I’m lying down. I was thinking wouldn’t it be great to lay my head down on Shoko’s shoulder to sleep like Japanese manga, the characters always sleep peacefully like that.

Singapore’s morning is still beautiful on Sunday. I met Shoko in the kitchen, I wanted to arrange plans after the bootcamp is over, like, finally bring her to clubs. I was too tired to figure the logistics, I didn’t say anything about bringing her out or meeting her later in the evening. She can’t be found anywhere in the hotel when I have a clear head. My initial plan was to party till midnight then I’ll take the taxi straight to JB’s airport which depart in 6am. So I check out, didn’t see any familiar face to have my goodbyes. Have a guy to text Henry I’m coming over, to place my luggage till the bootcamp’s over, no reply, so I invite myself over. I went to his hotel, ring his room, he open the door, showing his Australian body, with a Singapore towel. Well, we did it again. Another gay moment. Damn, I want my refund back!

We had Japanese for brunch, mine was awesome. We’re both in a good mood. I tone down my wackiness a lot, he downloaded my wackiness into his personality. We did gay jokes. Had a great time. Practice eye contact. I learn that I could get an idea on what the person is thinking on a very general level when I look into the right eye, for the left eye, I’ll pick up the emotions.

I pay for the brunch this time, Henry has been paying for my drinks and food. It’s not because we’re gay, I’m not sure why he did it, I think it’s because he knew I wasn’t earning a lot of money, and I’m like the childish and he’s the mature. He took care of me like a big brother. So this is like even though I suck in taking care of myself, he’s giving me a chance to take care of myself. Thanks Henry, for everything. Even if I’m not gay, I’m still gay for you. I’m serious. LOL!

Sunday Noon, Final Class.
Into the areas of phone game, dating and seduction. I’m not familiar with these area in terms of experience. So I don’t smile a lot and physical fatigue got the worse out of me. I’m glad that my mind is strong enough to listen.

P/S: I’m a self proclaim 5 out of 10 when it comes to phone closing, Henry’s a 6. David said Henry gave his answer base on mine!

Last night I gather my guts and told David I was practicing things I learn from puatraining, the hand gesture stuff. David told me to stop it. It fucked me up badly. Gambler from PUAtraining did the hand gestures much smoother, and slower, it’s not something I can learn and yet, not destroy my non verbal for now.

So, once again, I gather my guts to talk about approaching from behind, I saw videos from badboy lifestyle did it. I know it’s rarely a good idea to talk about things from different schools. Like I was saying, the fatigue brought the worse out of me, I said what’s the difference between what badboy lifestyle instructors did on approaching behind and the things I’ve did last night. Before and after I say that I was going mumble jumble. David look me in the eye, told me to “STEP UP” I took my time to think, there’s no difference, I asked David how to lock in when approach from behind. He demonstrated it and also showed me a video on Mystery’s approach and explain the things he did. I was tempted to ask “How can I open with Hi, I like you and I want to fuck you” I didn’t. I figure out the answers on my own, have yet to try them.

My misconception on lock in was, be comfortable and only being comfortable. And before, David did told me I have a player’s non verbal which is bad. VERY BAD!

A player’s non verbal are mostly laid back relax, mostly leaning in, and doesn’t come from a status or power position. While a pua, he is the core. He is the man in charge, the leader. Just like that, I realize I know nothing about body language in a pickup.

Riding Off Into The Sunset
I can find no better words but “Thank you” for David. As for Henry, he got a plane to catch. We didn’t hug each other gaily or cry before we part. I guess we’re not gay after all. Just good byes and take cares.

I thought of going back to bugis junction and find Shoko, at that time, I’m fainting, my body’s crumbling. So change of plans, either sleeping in the airport or a backpacker’s hotel in JB. Either way, I’m leaving Sg. Manage to find people waiting to share taxi fair. They got 3, so I’m the last one they’re waiting.

Regrets:
Before I reach Singapore, I planned to meet up with Hong Chang and other Sglair guys, mainly Hong Chang, he’s the hero that lead me to the right path of learning game. I should get him a drink, wash his shoes or clean his underwear or something.

The main characters that makes the bootcamp possible are, Val, who first contact me in Charisma Arts forum, which brings me to Singapore where I met Hong Chang, which leads to the lair talk with Asian Rake and Sebastian. (thanks Jynx for organizing the lair)

So even if the guys didn’t do anything special for me, indirectly, I found the puzzles and pieces I need for the moves to win in life.

P/S: I got a free one on one consultation from Hong Chang. So yeah, I should definitely, hand wash his baggy pants?

And off into the sunset I went, and encounter my next adventure.